Arguing in a love relationship is healthy and normal, but arguing everyday in a love relationship is unhealthy, especially if you’ve known each other well.
The longer you’ve been in a relationship with your partner and the more intimacy you share, the more you’re likely to argue but if you can not argue effectively in your relationship, it’s a red flag.
One issue here is how to know the healthy amount of arguing in a relationship and signs of a failing relationship.
How to Handle Arguments in a Relationship
Fighting in early stages of a relationship is completely normal, and what you need here is to study each other, and learn to make up with your differences.
Irrespective of the stage of your love relationship, it’s important to avoid constant arguing, and when you do, do it properly.
Try to be Calm
When you engage in an argument, you’re likely to speak on the top of your voice, but you should try to be as calm as possible.
Most men, for example can not tolerate a woman shouting at them in an argument.
In an argument, it can happen that you quickly feel overwhelmed and want to let out the inner fire.
Communicate how you feel to your partner, and ignore his/her negative responses.
At first, this can make you even angrier, but it is important that you now give your partner a freedom of expression.
Learn to be Quiet or give a Short Distance
Sometimes, a short distance is needed in the heat of the conflict, and other time, you only need to exercise patience and keep quiet if your partner is no more requesting that you answer specific questions.
If you are not in the mood for a conversation at the moment, or if you still have to think about something, it is best to express this and ask for a short break to think about it before you can start the discussion again.
Learn to Say Sorry
I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry, irrespective of your stance. Words can be very powerful and you can prevent as much domestic violence as possible by inculcating the culture of making an apology.
Just making an apology is not enough, you shouldn’t just say it to end the argument, and you should not be offended if the other person doesn’t want to hear it at the time.
If you really want to resolve an argument in a relationship, you apology should be like “I’m sorry that…” or “I’m sorry because…”.
It is best to follow with a well-thought-out “In the future, I will …” to make it clear that you are ready for a compromise and want to work on yourself.
If you’re a headstrong person, and want to end an argument without apologizing, you can start a conversation with your partner later and diffuse the argument with your spouse or husband over text.
Employ Make-up Sex
Most conflicts between couples are finalized at night. Another thing to do after a fight with your partner is to find a way to activate intimacy again.
While you might not come to a conclusion in your argument and get satisfied even after you’ve communicated your feelings, getting in each other’s arm at night or early in the morning can help alot.
You’re less tensed at those moments and you can communicate better, settle you disputes and accept the need for improvements, all in love.
Communicate a Bad Day
Discuss in advance your negative feelings about your day, not feeling fine, depression, busy day at work, not having a good sleep, and the list of things of things you’re not just pleased to do.
It is not uncommon for you to go home with bad mood, and you can easily transfer aggression to your partner if you don’t let out this bad feeling beforehand.
Communicating a bad day would also enable your partner to manage your pent-up emotions and avoid arguments with you.
You can send a short message to let them know that things are going badly at the moment and that you might be a little irritated and would like to have some rest or even need help.
If you try the above-mentioned healthy arguing techniques, you would be able to communicate properly and resolve your arguments.
You can learn to argue together, however, it is important to admit mistakes you have made and to always be open and honest with one another.
This is the only way to find a solution to the conflict together and save each other a lot of suffering for future conflicts.