What is an On-and-Off Relationship?
An on-and-off romantic relationship is when you and your partner experience a sharp spark and disconnect over and over again.
It is when you and your partner experience breaks in your relationship over a long period.
Some lovers have an on-and-off relationship for years while others for a short period. An on-and-off relationship can even last for 10 years or more.
While on-and-off relationship success stories are flying on the internet and love magazines, the majority often find it toxic and unhealthy.
Partners often get tired of on-and-off relationships over time before it’s finally over.
Causes (Signs) of On-and-Off Relationship
There are different causes of on-and-off relationships, and I’m going to highlight some common reasons for it.
- Partners are not living in the same city
- They do not have a genuine love for each other
- There’s no trust in the relationship
- They do not have plans together
- They can not strike a balance in the behaviors (tolerance)
- They can not manage their finances together
- One of the partners or both have side chicks
An on-and-off relationship can even be more painful than the final breakup since it can take months to get over the pains of an on-and-off relationship.
How to Fix On and Off Relationships
How do you now finally end an on-and-off relationship when you’re stuck in one?
- Get a grip on your manner of argument
- Open your communication
- Find time for each other
- Don’t be afraid to get help
Get a grip on your manner of argument
For relationships to survive, the partners need to be compatible. You fight with someone you’re closed with or love more than any other person, therefore, you need to work on the manner you argue with each other, it should not lead to a minor breakup.
Observe yourself and your partner in conflict situations – who’s offensive and who’s defensive, are you both offensive, try to correct that, be the sacrifice.
Who gets loud quickly and who’s the first person to leave the argument?
Most of the time it makes sense to end a conflict at an early stage, get separated for a while, and then meet again with a cool head.
Open your communication
If you and your partner are not living together, communication should be more prioritized, call each other every day, use social media, and spend time chatting together at night.
You should also make a plan to visit each other regularly. Be open in your conversation, don’t hide your feelings or thought.
Reveal your likes and dislikes, limits, and tolerance, so you can develop stronger together in your romantic relationship.
Regular communication helps to build trust in your relationship, it will help to plan the future together.
Even when you do not have a genuine love for each other at the beginning of the relationship, communication can help develop affections over time.
Spend quality time together
Nothing beats intimacy in a romantic relationship, not even sex! you need to spend quality time together to prevent an on-and-off relationship.
Eat together, go out and have fun together, recreate, exercise, visit the zoo and other interesting places in your leisure time.
A stable relationship needs intimacy. If you don’t bond together, separation is on the way.
Spending quality time together will enable you to have common experiences in which you can share memories when you’re far away or even together.
Don’t be afraid to get help
Sometimes it’s just bewitched. You found someone you love with all your heart, but it just won’t work.
You argue and quarrel over and over again, and go on and off in your love relationship.
You’re faced with loneliness, fear, grief in your heart and even depression often sets in.
You can talk to his/her friends or family if necessary or visit love therapists, relationship experts, counselors for help.
Many people still shy away from seeking therapeutic support because they think their problem is not “big” enough or that therapy is only for the completely screwed up.
Nope, seeking help from third parties proves to each other that you are courageous, want the relationship to survive, and are ready to work it out.